If your marriage is not saveable and divorce is the appropriate choice then it’s almost a given that you won’t see your kids as much as before. How much or little you see them depends on the parenting arrangements you settle on. But either way, it can be tough for parents and kids.
Thankfully, it is now easier than ever to stay in touch with your children when they are with their other parent rather than with you. Your co-parent can then do the same when the kids are with you. To increase the chance this works well, you need to consider how you will communicate.
Think about devices and perhaps set some ground rules
If your kids are of a certain age they probably have their own cell phones and possibly their own tablets or laptops. If not, then you need to think about when they can use a device of the parent they are with to talk to their other parent. Bear in mind that you probably need your devices for yourselves a lot of the time. You don’t want your ex calling to speak to your child when you are in the middle of a work call, for example.
You also need to strike a balance between maintaining a connection with your child and not interrupting each other’s parenting time. It will soon get annoying if your ex rings your kids every five minutes to check they are fine or rings to speak to them when you have finally settled them down to sleep.
With legal guidance, you can document some of your decisions in your parenting agreement.