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How should I tell my children about the divorce?

On Behalf of | Nov 16, 2023 | Divorce

You’re getting a divorce, but you have children. Part of the divorce process will likely be discussing custody rights and schedules with your soon-to-be-ex-spouse. While this process can happen without your children’s involvement, your children will eventually learn about their parent’s divorce.

As a father, you may be considering talking to your children early about the divorce. However, you may not know how to do it. This isn’t going to be an easy conversation, but the following may help you:

Don’t break the news all at once

You may not want to tell your children everything all at once, because it can be a lot to absorb. Plus, you may not have all the information about what to expect for the future. In other words, it may be better to have a conversation about the fact that the divorce is happening, while reassuring them that both their parents still love them. In the future, you may have another family meeting to talk about what will change after the divorce, such as living situations.

Be honest (but not overly detailed)

When you talk to your children about the divorce, you should consider telling the truth. Fabricating information may only confuse your children. However, you may also want to consider how you tell the truth to your children.

For example, if the divorce is caused by infidelity, then it may be easier to say that you and your spouse have simply decided that you want different things out of life, which also means getting a divorce. If you’re just not compatible with your spouse, it’s okay to say that you’ve realized you’re better off as friends. Essentially, you are giving a simple answer that does not put the blame on either of you — which is important when it comes to preserving the important parent-child relationship.

Divorce isn’t easy for anyone. You could benefit from reaching out for legal assistance when discussing child custody, support and schedules.