Even in the best of circumstances, going through a divorce is difficult. The situation is even more complex if you’re ending a marriage with a narcissist. There are some specific things that you should remember if you’re in this position.
One of the most important things to remember is that the narcissist will focus only on what they want. Most people who are narcissistic have created a world that only exists in their minds. This can lead them to become unable to separate reality from what’s in their imagination.
Narcissists gain power from emotions
Narcissists feel powerful when they can invoke emotions in others. They’ll often do things they know will make you feel angry or emotional. It’s typically best for you to avoid showing any emotions when you’re speaking to your ex. Because of this, communication through written means, such as monitored messaging, may help.
Proof of everything may be critical
The imaginary world that the narcissist lives in may not align with reality. They may claim that you didn’t take care of things that you know you handled. They might say they paid for things you paid for. Having receipts and proof of everything can help to combat these claims.
Divorcing a narcissist may take longer than other divorces because they may try to drag their feet to be in control of everything, including wanting to make you spend more money and time on the divorce. Working with someone who can assist you with keeping things moving forward may be beneficial in these situations.