Divorce courts are meant to start from the basis that both parents are equally worthy of getting time with the kids. Once they get to know a bit more about each parent, they can adjust the parenting time division one way or the other to find a balance they consider in the child’s best interests.
Understanding what might cost you time with your children is important. You can then make changes to those things to improve your chances of getting more time. You can also argue why that interpretation might be wrong or accept that receiving less parenting time might be the best thing for your child. Here are three factors that could limit your parenting time.
1. You have a hectic work schedule
You love your kids, but you also love your career. Maybe you hate your job but just need to work long hours to pay the bills and give the kids the opportunities you feel they deserve. Either way, you need to take a good look at how much of your life your work takes up.
Leaving early for work, getting home late or traveling for work may make it difficult for you to do the daily things your kids need such as cooking dinner, running them to sports practice or helping them with their homework. Even just having to be on call all the time could hinder your ability to be present and relaxed when the kids need you.
2. You have addiction issues
Addictions can cause problems for you and others. Sometimes it is better to get help to deal with the addiction before seeking a bigger share of parenting time.
3. Your living situation is complicated
Maybe you are struggling to find an affordable place to live right now, let alone one with enough space for the kids. Maybe you have a new partner you intend to move in with whom your kids don’t get on with. Be realistic. Allowing the kids to spend more time with their other parent may be the best choice in these situations.
Such issues could of course affect your soon-to-be ex, rather than you. Whatever the case, seeking legal guidance can help you take a step back and make the choices that are in your children’s best interests.